Colored Gals Aint in Style No More (and pedalstizing buffoons)

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/14/fashion/shows/14race.html?_r=1&oref=slogin&pagewanted=all

Did anyone see this article? It touches on the fact that black girls "need not apply" in the fashion industry -- just don't have THE look.

Then it got me to thinking about the images of people of color in general that the media aggressively and willingly promotes -- like Flavor (Flavor Flav that is).

Why does this negro command top ratings?

Knowing your value

It's not nice to admit this but I don't have empathy for people that don't value themselves. Life has taught me that you must value yourself before you can expect anyone else to value you.

A few of my bad relationships have been a careful study in "what not to do". What not to do: beg/whine/weedle for respect, reinvent yourself in someone else's image, put your needs at the bottom of the list, soothe with food/drugs/alcohol, remain steadfastly unchanged, avoid truth, and give others the responsibility for making you ________ (fill in the blank; including but not limited to whole/happy/successful/fulfilled).

Self value determines how you walk in the world. You can smell when someone values themselves (and doesn't). It's not lip service. Traveling though life as a victim encourages people to kick us, figuratively and literally.

It's our responsibility to shift this -- by creating situations in which we succeed, are validated and feel our strength. This may mean seeking professional therapy, reading, exercising, daring to speak when we are "normally" silent, avoiding or reducing our exposure to toxic lovers and friends AND accepting that fear is normal and pushing through it.

How we are valued starts with knowing our value...the universe is conspiring to shower us with blessings. See what Rob Brezsney has to say: http://www.freewillastrology.com/beauty/pronoia

And also Maryanne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

someone having an anniversary

I little birdie told me that someone is celebrating an anniversary....Happy Anniversary Cole-Waters!!!

select a candidate 2008

check out this website..who does this site say you should vote for? According to the site, I should be voting for Chris Dodd...big shock, I barely know who he is...

http://www.wqad.com/Global/link.asp?L=259460

this pic really bothers me...why??

Check out the recent post on jasmyne cannick's website about a few of the boys from the "Jena 6" at the BET awards...its the "October 15 post"

http://jasmynecannick.typepad.com/jasmynecannickcom/

why does that picture bother me so much?!

my daily blog trail

hello gang,

To get the ball rolling here is a list of the blogs I visit daily to avoid working on the dissertation (in no particular order). I will keep it clean so as not to offend ;)


Keith Boykin: http://www.keithboykin.com/
Rod 2.0: http://rodonline.typepad.com/
Jasmyne Cannick: http://jasmynecannick.typepad.com/jasmynecannickcom/
Jack and Jill Politics: http://jackandjillpolitics.blogspot.com/
Perez Hilton: http://www.perezhilton.com/

reg

thanks!!

thanks for blog invite!! I look forward to checking the "dis-n-dat" blog during my daily blog review. is the blog private (i.e. open only for invited members)? What kinds of things are we going to post here?